We invest time in the smartest career move, coolest hairstyle, indulgent recipes, fitted denim jeans and blendable makeup foundations. Trial and error alarms us in what’s best for our well-being. Mistakes help us learn more about the things we really need in our life by guiding us to make better decisions. Deciding on a supreme choice requires an ultimate amount of patience and wisdom, which is why I haven’t had a boyfriend for nearly ten years. I know that’s a long time but let me explain why…
Do you believe in soulmates? I believe everyone has the chance for true love with a special person meant for each human in the world. Your significant other exists and you don’t need to settle for less than what you deserve. The idea is you need to wait for him or her to cross your path.
Past Happened for a Reason
I’ve dated guys who were just not right for me and my internal environment. I’m not about bashing people but I experienced guys cheating on me, lying straight to my face and breaking up with me because I won’t compromise my moral values.
No more Natonya, you deserve better. Stop settling for less and wait for the best.
After those disastrous relationships, I learned what is the point of dating bad guys while I wait for MY perfect man? I’m a good person who deserves a good person. I rebuilt my confidence and decided to not let those negative experiences change my love walk or place a shadow on my heart. I chose to wait for the best and nothing less.
As I’m waiting for God to send me my husband, I learned how to filter out those who are not ‘the one’. I don’t say ‘yes’ to every man’s advances, meaning those who ask for a date or my phone number. Yes this method has made me super picky but it’s this decisive attitude that has caused me to avoid unnecessary heartbreak and difficulty of trying to force something to happen with a person that’s not truly my match.
Not going to lie, three years ago I thought to lower my standards because I wasn’t meeting my type. I wondered if my expectations were too high or even if what I liked existed? Until two years ago, I discovered my celebrity crush Brock O’Hurn who is exactly everything I dream of in a man.
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I’m mentally attracted to men who love to love, driven by creativity, fearlessly romantic, aspire for change, unselfish and use their platform to make a difference in the world, even if it’s something simple as sharing positive messages on Instagram. Brock is always excited to live his best life now and he is not afraid to celebrate the little things. Not to mention, he is 6’7 with long hair and a bright smile, which is physically attractive to me too.
Good guys do exist and so does my type.
Discovering Brock made me realize that my type does exist and even though I haven’t met the one for me in my city, doesn’t mean I won’t ever meet him.I don’t have to lower my standards or force myself in a relationship. So I’m sticking to my dating strategy with a stronger amount of faith attached.
In the end, declaring the best for me has taught me how to appreciate myself by becoming more self-aware and accepting. You need to put yourself first and do what’s best for you. Never lower your standards for anyone because you deserve what you want and you deserve nothing but the best.
What do you think about today’s idea of dating? Do you have specific expectations or guidelines for yourself?
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