Body Positive: Redefining Beauty on Our Own Terms

BODY POSI

The woman’s body built like a work of art with intricate curves, textural-defined skin and a ravishing softness that makes anyone melt. God made people into a masterpiece hard to duplicate, which is why we must value every part of our human form. Some ladies are slim-framed while others slip into the wider-built category.

Body image is in the forefront because people are acknowledging and beautifying the diversity of different sizes and shapes. We don’t need to look the same, in fact it’s important we don’t look like the girl or guy next door.

Body Positive: Redefining Beauty on Our Own Terms- JustNatonya & GrandFashLife

Following the aftermath of Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show controversy, Erica from GrandFashLife and I decided to write about our perspectives of the body image movement. Erica is one of my favorite fashion bloggers because she is supportive, innovative, kind and a talented clothing designer. Be sure to follow her on Twitter for inspirational energy and check out her Instagram, she rocks some stylish beauty looks too.

NATONYA’S CURVE

I’ve always had thick thighs, wide hips and a round butt. As a woman today, this type of figure is considered beautiful but my days in middle school and early high school years, it was described as “fat” and “funny looking”. Hearing someone tell me, “I’m fat” played with my self-esteem. I always hid my womanly shape at a young age behind baggy clothes and over-sized cardigans.

Body Positive: Redefining Beauty on Our Own Terms- JustNatonya

I would even wear my favorite red knitted sweater in the summer because I didn’t like my arms, butt and hips. My mentality of hiding carried into adulthood. I still have moments where I struggle to embrace my physique because I get self-conscious when others stare. For some reason, I think they stare because something is wrong.

My mother always bought me body hugging clothes such as tight pencil skirts and high-waist pants to show out my curves. She always emphasized to me, never hide your beauty because God makes no mistakes. Women like Iskra Lawrence and La’Tecia Thomas with similar body types like mine make it easier to fearlessly flaunt my figure in a fashion-friendly manner. I follow both women on Instagram because they represent what the body positive movement is all about, loving yourself in your own skin to redefine the meaning of beauty.

Body Positive: Redefining Beauty on Our Own Terms- JustNatonya

Let me start by saying I have always shopped at Victoria’s Secret. As I became older and more educated about brands and their missions, I find myself less excited over the company and its marketing strategies. Earlier in May, I wrote a post about the inclusive and exclusivity in the body positive movement, declaring that it’s not necessary to pin one body category over another to celebrate the beauty of a specific body shape. I like movements that focus on body positivity by celebrating ALL shapes and sizes, similar to the community I built through @sheiconic. Be sure to read that post about my concept to understand the main points.

Victoria’s Secret made headlines because of the negative comments against featuring transgenders in their holiday spectacular runway show. Personally, I believe the company is allowed to have whoever they want to walk their runway. While it’s encouraging to have more body shape diversity in their show and campaigns, it’s their niche to feature slime-figured women, similar to Lane Bryant’s niche to focus on bustier and curvaceous women.

Body Positive: Redefining Beauty on Our Own Terms- JustNatonya & GrandFashLife

Let’s educate ourselves to the fact that there is something out there for everyone, we just have to find it or create a lane ourselves. I built @sheiconic because I wanted to see not only see women shaped like me but showcase how beautiful and confident other women are in their skin too. While I like the fact Victoria’s Secret highlights diversity of women through different race and nationalities, I’m against their lack of sincerity because this isn’t the first time the brand has been offensive. Once through campaigns described as the perfect body, which came across as ignorant to some because the brand neglected the fact that not everyone is shaped the same as their models.

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I believe it’s our duty as women to lift and support each other and that includes celebrating our “flaws”. Let’s stop shamming someone for being naturally thin or hating on a woman’s cellulite. How about we compliment those features considered physical flaws and declare them as alluring attributes. Fall in love with the fact we’re all uniquely made and no one looks the same yet we’re united into one beautiful human race and that makes us all special.

ERICA’S CURVE

We as women are put under pressure to be “perfect”, we have to be a certain size or color to be accepted. As a young girl these ideas of what women should be were forced into our faces all over television and movies. At some point we admired the woman men swooned over. Now, that we are older, more of us are noticing how toxic it is to compare ourselves to these unrealistic ideas of “perfection”.

Body Positive: Redefining Beauty on Our Own Terms- GrandFashLife

Being a woman is stressful, we deal with the bodily pain then we have to deal with the social pain. Social pain being wanting to take a picture of which we love, put it on social media just to be made fun of because we don’t look like the “Instagram model” as if that’s what qualifies us as beautiful. Those standards and the hate spewed throughout the internet is what causes people to change who they are.

Our bodies, skin tones, personalities and stories are all different for a reason. I am thankful for my thighs, hips, personality, and skin tone because it is ME! No one else’s acceptance matters more than my own!

Body Positive: Redefining Beauty on Our Own Terms- GrandFashLife

This society we are in praises the Victoria Secret model over the real life fantasy! As women, we should uplift one another when we are compared for the attention of someone who only cares for the size of your butt or breasts. We are more than booty size.

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My hope is one day we all accept one another and are accepted by others for being exactly who we are without the modifications and comparisons. If you must modify something about yourself do it for you and not because that’s how all the girls on Instagram look or because of a boys suggestion. In the end a real man will accept you for all that you are, imperfections included.

Body Positive: Redefining Beauty on Our Own Terms- GrandFashLife

Love yourselves, your bodies, your personality and show that love to the next woman. If no one else will build us up we surely can. Let’s show the world all of the different body types, skin tones and ethnicity that are under represented and push for a change so we can all be seen, so we can all show young girls that when they grow up there is someone that looks like them to look up to.

What are your views about body image? How do you plan to change the online attitude towards it?

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25 Comments Add yours

  1. I really enjoyed reading this! It’s so important to define what beauty is for yourself on your own terms, and find confidence no matter what. As women, it’s so crucial for us to uplift one another. loved this post!

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    1. justnatonya says:

      Glad you understand how as women it’s important that we support one another. Thank you for reading 🙂

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  2. Aaliyah Hunt says:

    Loved this! I’ve been so down on myself recently about my body as it isn’t what it use to look like but that’s ok and I’m started to love myself. I’m so glad your able to show your curves off now! Xx

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    1. justnatonya says:

      Thanks Aaliyah! It was a process but now I feel so much more comfortable in my own skin. I’m hoping this is inspiring others to do the same too 🙂

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  3. Alys says:

    I think we all just need to accept the bodies we have and embrace who we are. There is so much comparison in the world, and so many people telling you how you should love.

    Ps. You look beautiful in these photos!

    Alys / withlovealys.com

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    1. justnatonya says:

      Thank you so much Alys, so happy you agree!!

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  4. Always love a great body positive/body confidence blog post! Such an important thing that everyone should have no matter have size or shape you are! Absolutely loved reading this x

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    1. justnatonya says:

      We are so happy you liked the post and concept Becca ❤

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  5. Nancy says:

    Women are built in all sorts of form and all of them are beautiful. Positive body image is a MUST! There’s no “right” shape or form. We’re all beautiful. You’re gorgeous! I am disappointed by the headlines from VS. I expected better from them. I’m not that curvy myself but that’s totally fine! :).

    Nancy ♥ exquisitely.me

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    1. justnatonya says:

      Absolutely Nancy! We are all beautiful, no one can tell us different. Yea Victoria Secret is allowed to market who they want to but they need be a bit more considerate in the structure and delivery of their campaign messages. So happy you liked this post 🙂 Thank you for commenting ❤

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  6. I really enjoyed reading this blog post lovely and I am so happy that you have been brave enough to write it and share it. I think being confident in your own skin is the best body confidence that anyone can have! Great blog post beautiful, 💜✨

    With love, Alisha Valerie x | http://www.alishavalerie.com

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  7. Chloe Chats says:

    Such a fab post, it is really important to love ourselves, it’s so easy to get upset because you don’t look a certain way, because you feel like that’s how you ‘should’ look. When I was a teenager, maybe around 16 I never wore a dress, skirt or shorts without tights (unless I went abroad on holiday I would but feeling so insecure), and it was only this year that I wore a dress/skirt/shorts in england without tights. (so that took me 6 years to feel confident to do so.) When I think back to it now I wish I loved myself more, it’s so silly to hide away – especially if the weather is so warm, I would be overheating sometimes when it was sunny and I couldn’t bring myself to not wear tights. Great post, and so important to highlight. You look fab by the way!!!

    Chloe xx

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  8. BeckieWrites says:

    Thank you for sharing this highly positive post. I have struggled with my weight for years. It is good to be reminded that true beauty comes from within.

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    1. justnatonya says:

      Absolutely Beckie, you inner beauty magnifies your outer image 🙂

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  9. Emma B says:

    love this! and such an important message to get across, it’s crazy what the media feeds us these days. you are beautiful! 💛💛

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  10. I really adored this post, it’s so raw and I could really relate to so much of it myself! The fact you’ve mentioned about people now favouring bottom heavy figures when in school we got called fat is SO TRUE. I remember being called fat in year 9 by a boy and I’ve never forgotten what he said or the way he said it since, 8 years later. It’s so rude and horrible to belittle someone else for any aspect of their appearance and it’s definitely something we should be concentrating on not doing as a society, especially as women! If we don’t support and uplift each other, who will?
    Alice Xx

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    1. justnatonya says:

      Right on Alice! I’m so happy this post touched you in a positive way. You’re right, we have to uplift one another, let’s stop shaming each other and embrace each other 🙂

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  11. mrspillar says:

    Fantastic post! This is a very important subject, and it was nice to have both points of view. You both, of course, are just stunning. There is so much positivity in this that one can’t help but feel like a goddess after reading it! Well done!

    -Kat
    https://boozyhousewife.family.blog/

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  12. bingingonabudget says:

    Thanks for sharing, love your fashion sense. What’s one of your favorite trends this winter?

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    1. justnatonya says:

      Thank you so much! My favorite fashion trend this winter is leopard print!!

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  13. glowsteady says:

    I love that you’ve included two perspectives here! I think as long as you’re happy and confident that’s all that matters. Like VS choosing their models, not everyone is going to find everything beautiful and that’s okay. It’s better if you can see beauty everywhere but as long as you can see it in yourself, no one else matters x

    Sophie
    http://www.glowsteady.co.uk

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    1. justnatonya says:

      Great point Sophie, the only true opinion that matters and we should focus on is our own opinion. Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. So happy you stopped by ❤

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